21 Responses to A Tragic End to a Young Woman’s Life by Catherine Frei

  1. natasha February 28, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    I must Agree, She was a great person and i still can’t belive this happened it’s scared to now that people can even do that to someone R.I.P Kelsey xo

  2. Mark Auld February 28, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Very well written and explained Miss Frei !!! Tragedy is tragedy, regardless of one’s past…

  3. Amy Miller February 28, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    Every person has the right to equality! It doesn’t matter what your Nationality, Religion, Education, Career, Woman, Man. This is stated in our Constitution. Why do people think they have the right to judge another. I fully agree that our so-called “Government” has many changes to be made.

  4. Craig February 28, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    I am Kelsey’s Brother…. Change WILL happen !! This is about making it safe for all women. My little Sister’s tragic end to her young life will resonate through the streets and homes of so many for many years to come. Our Family is devastated and I would never want anyone to go through this kind of thing ever again. We must use our common sense and better judgment when dealing with this issue of predators praying on young women like Kelsey. I am disgusted with our broken down system as it seems these kind of animals have more protection then anything. Kelsey had so much potential and it kills me to know that this kind of crime could have been avoided had the right legislation been in place. R.I.P my baby Sis xoxo

  5. abbie March 1, 2013 at 12:09 am

    i knew kelsey she was a very sweet girl and her brother is right we need to stop protecting the people that do these crimes and start protecting our woman it does not matter what her past was for we will never know what her future could have been i no i live on the street etc and we cannot allow this to happen again it should never have happened to begin with kelsey was a person a young woman maybe troubled she was a daughter a mother a sister a friend and we will never know what her future was going to be she wasn t given that chance but he is given protection etc where was kelseys protection there was none for her this is a very big tragedy and it has really been bothering me i was a drug addict and a wrking girl and my children got to see me get threw my addiction kelseys daughters won t get that chance ever it s a shame R.I.P MISS KELSEY R.I.P BIG HUGS TO HER FAMILY ABBIE XO

  6. Lorraine Grenier March 4, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    so sad…..so young….a broken life…..taken away to her maker…Amen Kelsey

  7. karin March 5, 2013 at 11:27 am

    It’s my understanding that she had HIV, and he contracted this? Was this the reason he did this horrible crime?

  8. Avocate March 5, 2013 at 11:48 pm

    I think that it is dangerous for people to make comments about someones sexual health if they do not have proof of it. As well, regardless of the circumstances, this crime, most people would consider unthinkable …. something out of a nightmare or horror film. Not something that any person, under any circumstances could do to another human being no matter what the circumstances were. Horrible thing to say if you are not sure about a young woman so brutally murdered.

  9. Scot Ferguson-Barber March 6, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    karin, your attitude is exactly what Catherine is talking about in her column. There is absolutely no excuse for treating another human being this way. You should b ashamed of yourself. For you to spread rumours and uncertainties about this poor girl further victimizes her.

  10. Jodi March 6, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    Karin: ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? You actually posted that on here?????

  11. karin March 6, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    To all those slamming me really, I ASKED A QUESTION as kelsey did not deserve this, nor does anyone however as a community kelsey has come into all our hearts and many people including her own family would wonder why this horrific crime could happen to a beautiful women in her prime. I did not make up a story I was simply asking something that many are asking and wondering why and how.

  12. Avocate March 6, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    You did not ask a question, to quote what you said, “It is my understanding that she had HIV.” That is hardly a question but rather a statement. I suggest you choose your words more wisely.

  13. Jodi March 7, 2013 at 7:47 am

    It sounds like you are justifying what he did. She was a child, he is a man…why was he sleeping with her.

  14. Amanda March 23, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    I’ve heard the HIV connection a few times now from different sources. I didn’t know her so I don’t know if it’s true.

  15. Craig March 27, 2013 at 6:02 pm

    I feel I must comment on this as Kelsey was my Sister. I think that comments are more then welcome on Miss Frei’s column but in my opinion this is not a place for such ignorant questions and theories on why and how my Sister was murdered or what she was doing at the time. words are powerful and if you cannot say anything nice or with meaning then you should definitely keep it to yourself or to your own dinner tables with your own Family, have some respect!! Kelsey did NOT have HIV and that is all I will say about that. Asking why this happened to any human being let alone a young women at the tender young age of 24, is a never ending ignorant question, the only one who will ever really know that, is her Killer. He was the one who was capable of committing this horrific crime… My Family will never know why, so no, the why is not a looming question for us. Kelsey had so much potential and we will never get to see what her future held , that is what is on my mind , I just plain old miss my little Sister. Kelsey also phoned home every day, sometimes 2 or 3 times/ day so she was definitely not estranged from her Family at all… We always new where she was and what she was doing…. When she didn’t call for a couple of days my Mother new something was wrong. As for the how?… I guess the trial process will bring that out, which brings me back to my original point … This is no place to comment about such uncertain details as if this were a question forum… It is a column that is obviously intended to give us all more insight into the growing problem regarding violence against women and what we are not doing right in this country (in our cities)… This column was also another eye opener to who Kelsey was and how what happened to her is unimaginable under any circumstances . I want to thank Miss Frei for writing this column and as time goes on more and more facts will come to light regarding this issue. RIP Kelsey xo … You will be loved and missed always our beautiful angel <3.

  16. Amanda April 15, 2013 at 11:22 pm

    Actually, I think we can agree that not much has been said in a long time regarding her case and people need closure. From what I heard – outreach workers made those comments regarding illness. The sad and tragic fact is that street prostitution is a very dangerous job in Canada, and we need to call our representatives and force change so that more women aren’t killed from working in unsafe situations. I also think families need to do more to prevent their family members from taking this path. We need to view street prostitutes as valuable and their lives as valuable and protect them from working on dark streets alone. More so – we need longer sentences for “bad dates” and better ways of alerting police about bad dates. So please don’t suggest people don’t care about Kelsey – we care that we question how she ever got to this point of no return. Like why wasn’t she helped BEFORE her demise in a successful manner?

  17. Advocate April 17, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    You raise some interesting questions Amanda, certainly worthy of careful consideration. I will however, disagree with the comment you made about outreach workers commenting on her sexual health – this would be a blatant breach of confidentiality. Nevertheless, regardless that issue is here nor there, her tragic ending should never have been and yes … we all need to find solutions to these growing problems and keep these women safe.

  18. Craig April 18, 2013 at 7:55 am

    AMANDA…IN MY OPINION YOU ARE A VERY IGNORANT PERSON!!! YOU KNOW NOTHING OF KELSEY , MY FAMILY, OR KELSEY’S CASE , YOU HAVE NO CLUE WHAT SHE WAS DOING OR WHY SHE WAS WHERE SHE WAS AT THE TIME OF HER MURDER! … PEOPLE NEED CLOSURE??… FOR SOME OF US CLOSURE IS JUST SOME MADE UP WORD TO MAKE US FEEL BETTER… THERE WILL NEVER BE CLOSURE FOR US. YOU ARE QUITE OBVIOUSLY AN INCONSIDERATE, INSENSITIVE PERSON WHO CLEARLY HAS NO IDEA WHAT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT REGARDIND KELSEY AND WHAT MY FAMILY HAS OR HASN’T DONE… HOW DARE YOU BLAME THE VICTIMS FAMILIES FOR SICK ACTS LIKE THIS TAKING PLACE OR EVEN LEADING UP TO THEM!!! YOU CLEARLY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE GREIVING. MY MOTHER IS DYING OVER THE LOSS OF HER CHILD SO TO BE QUIT FRANK WITH YOU AMANDA… TOO HELL WITH YOU AND YOUR GODAMN CLOSURE!!! SO NO, I DON’T THINK WE AGREE ON MANY THINGS. I KNOW A FEW OUTREACH WORKERS AND YOU ARE SO FULL OF SHIT AMANDA … ITS SAD THAT YOU WOULD PUT SUCH A STATMENT OUT THERE ON PURE HEAR SAY… DO YOU REALIZE THAT WE COULD SEW PEOPLE FOR SAYING SUCH THINGS , SPECIALLY AN OUTREACH WORKER(WORKERS) AND AS IF THEY WOULD RISK THEIR CAREERS JUST TO TELL YOU SUCH THINGS LIKE KELSEY HAD THE H.I.V. VIRUS. THAT IS A HUGE ALOGATION AMANDA AND YOU ARE SO FULL OF SHIT WHEN IT COMES TO ANY SOURSES YOU HAVE… YOUR EITHER VERY YOUNG OR VERY STUPID OR PERHAPS BOTH. YOU CAN’T JUST MAKE GENERAL STATEMENTS ABOUT SUCH A SPECIFIC CASE OF WHICH YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO KNOWLEDGE … IDK, MAYBE THAT’S JUST HOW YOU WERE RAISED. MY ADVICE TOO YOU IS READ A BOOK, OPEN A NEWSPAPER, GO ONLINE, DO SOME RESEARCH ON MURDERS OF THIS NATURE , WRITE YOUR LOCAL MP. WHAT YOU DON’T DO, IS GO BLAMING FAMILIES THAT ARE SUFFERING AND DESEASES THAT ARE NOT PRESENT … SPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO A CRIME OF THIS MAGNITUDE . IN OTHER WORDS , THINK AND KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY TALK ABOUT IT!! ITS PRETTY SIMPLE AMANDA!… WELL FOR SOME OF US IT IS.
    WHEN THE HELL DID I EVER SUGGEST PEOPLE DON’T CARE ABOUT KELSEY AMANDA??? … HAVE YOU EVEN READ ANY OF THE COMMENTS ON HERE??? CLEARLY YOU HAVE NOT , NOW YOUR PUTTING WORDS IN MY MOUTH !! I NEVER ONCE HAVE SUGGESTED THAT PEOPLE DON’T CARE ABOUT KELSEY OR WHAT HAPPENED TO HER…WHAT I DID SUGGEST IS THAT YOU HAVE SOME RESPECT BUT THAT CLEARLY FELL ON YOUR DEAF EARS… WHAT I AM PERHAPS ALSO SUGGESTING IS THAT MAYBE YOU SHOULD JUST ZIP IT BEFORE YOU GET YOURSELF IN SOME TROUBLE THAT YOU CAN’T GET OUT OF. IF YOU HAD ANY BRAINS IN YOUR HEAD YOU WOULD REALISE THAT SOMETIMES REALLY BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO REALLY GOOD PEOPLE AND FAMILIES ALIKE . YOUR COMMENTS ON THIS SUBJECT ARE A TOTAL LOAD OF BS AND ANYONE WITH HALF A BRAIN CAN SEE THAT INCLUDING THOSE WHO ARE CLOSE TO MY FAMILY AND I . NOW AMANDA, WHY DON’T YOU DO US ALL A HUGE FAVOUR AND GO COMMENT ON SOME OTHER SENSITIVE ISSUE THAT YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT.

  19. Kim C April 18, 2013 at 11:02 am

    I cant believe the nerve of some people.. Amanda you truly need to think before you write uneducated comments regarding victims families… That is so sad.. I know Craig and his family and I am absolutely outraged at such an ignorant assumption.. There is a reason why the word ass is found in the word assume. Kelseys family are really good people who tried their best with her, so honestly Amanda you need to shut your mouth regarding the family or what YOU think Kelsey was or wasn’t doing at the time… There are laws against slander you know, and you are walking a fine line. With that being said… I know Craig and his family will be fully involved in the process of change, and change does need to happen in order to protect all women to the best of our ability, from these monsters. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Craig… RIP Kelsey xoxo Gone to soon..

  20. Craig April 18, 2013 at 11:57 am

    Thank you Kim… Love ya and god bless you and your Family. I think Karen and Amanda should have a cup of tea together or something, they truly deserve each other…. some people just have no Love or very little of it, and that is what is needed most in these very dark times, LOVE… NOT STRIFE AND WRONGFUL ASSUMPTIONS…NOT Selfishness and hatred but LOVE… Without LOVE and consideration we are nothing, without a common goal we are useless and without good people we are lost. LOVE can concur all when applied in force. I truly believe there is more good then evil in this world and we must band together in order to defeat the evils within it . I Miss you so much Kelsey, I will always LOVE you with all my Heart and I will see you again one day. RIP Kels, xoxoxo

  21. Catherine Frei April 21, 2013 at 9:06 am

    It is so tragic to see people arguing at a time like this but I can certainly understand why Craig in particular and anyone else that was close to Kelsey’s family would want to, and need to, come to her defense. What is sadder that anyone is having to come to the defense of a young woman who died so tragically in such horrific circumstances … this should happen to no one. When I wrote this article it was my intention to write it with a level of tenderness, not just for Kelsey but for her family as well. The mainstream media seemed to be getting it all wrong and miserably misrepresenting Kelsey, the family and friends that love her and the issues that should have been the ultimate focus. Nearly three months have passed and these poor people, grief stricken and dealing with such a terrible loss are no closer to having answers to what not only they deserve to have answers to, but what Kelsey deserves as she watches over all of us. If only she could speak from the grave, we would not have to read comments made in ignorance, allow assumptions to be made that are in all likelihood false and just further insult to a poor young woman who by all rights should still be here with us today enjoying all that life has to offer. I have commented previously as the “Advocate” and not because I do not wish to have my identity known as when I say something I will say it with conviction, but only because as a journalist it is my duty and responsibility to deliver facts and write the most balanced story I can. Let me tell you that in a circumstance such as this one, it was no easy task,unfortunately when tragedies like this strike all too often people are inclined to write what they think would make the most sense (she was a drug addict, prostitute or what have you) instead of writing about the issues that really matter, the difficult issues, the ones that will take hard work and determination to fix out of either fear or a lack of ability to get down to the nitty gritty and encourage change – this takes hard work. I KNOW that Kelsey deserves nothing less than all of the hard work that is available out there, and she deserves the devotion from people to at least be supportive if you cannot be a part of orchestrating this type of change. I feel as if condolences not only for her death but for the bantering that has taken place on this forum is in order for her family … how sad that they are victims of crime and now a victim to this! I have sat back and watched for nearly two months now, and people are just plainly ignorant and lack couthe – what a shame, my heart goes out to all that loved her. I knew Kelsey personally, despite her lifestyle and choices she was kind, loving and full of life. I hope I did her well by writing this article, I hope the real questions that need to be asked were raised and I hope I left her family with some comfort in knowing that not all media are out to sensationalize a story like this and exploit others pain. To do this job right in my opinion is to talk about the things that do not necessarily make people comfortable and make them “Read on” but talk about the issues that really matter. I do hope that steps are being taken to promote necessary change and it would be an honour to be able to write a follow-up article down the road with more positives to write about, such as, legislation being questioned, tougher laws against the criminals that commit these crimes, more support for the families that have lost a love one this way and hope for those that are vulnerable and more protection for them. These are the things that we should be discussing here, not sexual health, pointing fingers (blindly I might add) and everything else that detracts from the REAL issues. Craig, please allow me to extend my most sincere condolences to you and your family, no words can comfort you I am sure but hopefully positive change and focus on the real issues and Kelsey as the lovely human being she was can provide some. Please feel free at anytime to contact the paper for my contact information if you would ever like to share your thoughts and memories of Kelsey’s or even if you just want to talk, there are no better people to speak of Kelsey than her family themselves. For all of the others that wish to comment on this open public forum, that is wonderful, however, it is meant for open and HEALTHY debate about issues that matter. Have some consideration and some compassion for the others (in particular family) that have commented here as well and have to read your thoughts. My suggestion is to read carefully the comments beforehand, think carefully about the magnitude of this tragedy and do not speak before you have done, at the very least, both of these and perhaps even more reflection. There are people reading this thread with very personal ties to this young woman, lets exercise some compassion, show some love and understanding, and most importantly show support and encouragement upon the beginning of this long journey ahead for some kind of closure and necessary change.

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