Grand Ballrooms hide dirty secrets

By  | January 17, 2012 | 4 Comments | Filed under: Editorial

Susan is the  Director of Care for Comfort Keepers. She has asked to post columns about some of the situations she sees in her work that she feels should be discussed.

Mr. X had been placed in a local retirement home after his wife died a couple months ago, she was his caregiver. Mr. X has late stages Alzheimer’s disease. He has lived in the area his entire life. He has one child who lives out of the area and can only see him once a month.  We have provided home care a couple days per week to both Mr. and Mrs. X in their home till Mrs. X passed away.  The family chose to place Mr. X after the hospital told his family this was their only option (wrong we do 24/7 home care).  The family chose to still have us visit with Mr. X every day to ensure someone checks in on him.

The urgent call came in this morning from my PSW who was horrified and angered at what she found when she came in to her client, Mr. X, today….he stood there in the middle of his room, 84 years old and covered in feces from head to toe, and his room was covered as well. This is not the first time we have found Mr. X in this predicament. My PSW’s in tears demanding that someone be responsible for not checking in and taking care of him better. $3000/month has to get you something better than this!

The fancy walls and lovely lobbies, and grand dining rooms hide some pretty nasty secrets. Long and short of this I have spoken to the Director of Care at this facility about this before and the response all the time is….”we’re short staffed, Mr. X needs a lot of care and we just don’t have time to watch him all the time”.

If you have a loved one living in a retirement home or nursing home please do regular surprise visits or if you can’t do them consider hiring Home Care. Checking on your loved one on a regular base, will help provide the additional needed care they truly require…better yet before you decide on moving into a facility look at your options for staying home!  $3000/month can get you quite a bit of care in the comfort of your own home using Home Care services.


4 Responses to Grand Ballrooms hide dirty secrets

  1. Jimm Hillis January 17, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful post. it is timely for me as my family is going through this situation right now. Where we have Mom placed is doing a wonderful job dealing with her but i am sure there are some not as well and i have heard the horror story’s from many about some of the more “high Profile” homes. Sometimes smaller is better.

  2. Tracy Borozee January 17, 2012 at 8:47 pm

    It is always important to check out a place thoroughly before placing a loved on there. wonderful article and very timely.

  3. curmudgeon January 17, 2012 at 9:55 pm

    Great article Susan. Having had first hand experience with “homes” we cannot do enough to keep an eye on our loved ones. Articles like yours can and do help to make a difference. Look forward to additional posts.

  4. jen January 19, 2012 at 4:49 pm

    Great article….I am very fortunate that my sister lives in the same city as my mom and we have a great friend that checks in on her too. It’s sad that this is true, there just isn’t enough staff. The staff that does work there are angels… it takes a special person to be a PSW in a nursing home. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

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