Well folks, normally I write about some cool thing I got the chance to do in some cool place I would like to return to. I talk about the customs or the weather or the transportation. Sometimes I extol the virtues of the hotel or the destination. I try to have a funny story or something just this side of unusual.
One thing I have never mentioned is what sometimes happens at destinations. North Americans in particular are very open hearted people. We are raised to believe that when we give affection we get affection. When we are open with our feelings they are generally returned in a sincere and safe manner. We don’t worry about HIV or sexually transmitted diseases or any danger in particular. We are a happy go lucky people.
For years I had a client I sent to Cuba. The hotel I sent him to had literally become his cottage. He loved the people and the people loved him. He would return 3 times a year, bringing goods to the locals, baby clothes to someone he knew was having a baby, etc. He once said something that has stuck in my mind; “I’m no Brad Pitt. If some young thing is flirting with me, I know it’s not because she’s fallen in love.” In other words this fine young thing has ulterior motives. My friend was kind and smart; he passed away last year, he is greatly missed.
We had another client who actually married his foreign sweetie. Thirty days after he brought her and her daughter to Canada, she left him. He is now legally responsible for her and her daughter (up to the age of 18). Was he swindled? We will never truly know. Most people don’t realize just how responsible they will be when they bring someone to Canada.
In another instance, we had a young single father come in to pay for a ticket to bring his sweetie from foreign lands. The tip-off that this was a scam happened when he mention a huge inheritance she was coming into, 25 million large! One of our senior counselors looked her up on ScammerList.com, and sure enough she was there. After a few days of checking with his sweetie, her ticket was cancelled. He was heartbroken that someone could be so callous and cruel, knowing he was a single dad.
When our good looking young folks travel to hot sexy destinations, they need to remember that they are suddenly the pretty exotic girl/boy with the foreign accent. I can speak for myself; I am a sucker for great accents! I simply melt in my flip flops! It’s all good until someone gets the wrong idea, flirts a little too much and gets left alone with the wrong person. People PAY ATTENTION! Bad things don’t just happen in dark alleys, they happen under pretty palm trees, on white sand beaches, with the most attractive of predators.
On the lighter side, I have a business man who met his sweetie while doing business in China, they have been married for 10 years. I remember issuing her ticket to bring her here. We have another gentleman who married his sweetheart from the Philippines. We had the opportunity to meet her and her children – a lovely family, once again happily married for 5 years.
Dreams do come true, just be smart, don’t lose your sense of balance while in paradise.
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